I want! But …

Hmmm, every time I hear these words I remember the joke of two blond who were talking while smoking:

“ – Listen darling, I was in Paris last month and it’s fantastic!

  -Aaa, and just wanted again to go to Paris!

  -Have you ever been there?

  -No, but I wanted!”

The matter discussed above not actually means that the characters are two girls (for a given educational level in acceptance of the spirit joke) or more, it would be blonde. I have disturbing news for everyone: we all find ourselves in the blonde’s pose. We want this or that, we realize it, we verbalize it, we can touch it, but most important, we feel it. However, we are on the point of desiring it again and again, but we don’t get it because actually, something is missing: the action itself. The more we want it for a long time and with higher intensity, the more we move away from acting in the direction of the desired result. It sounds paradoxical, but it happens to all of us, for shorter or longer periods of time, at a young age or after. If we take a look at these things from far, we see that we become prisoners of the two patterns perfectly balanced which  resonates in complete harmony with each other, like two electrons always maintaing their orbital motion around the nucleus: desire and inaction. These two are perfectly polarized and are mutually maintained. Moreover, we can consider the whole as a single pattern which becomes very intimate, very personal. This pattern leads us and alters our personal and professional quality of life

What’s behind it? A fundamental thing for each of us: FEAR. This fear takes many forms: for example, “if I act so, what that others will say?” (is like we quit playing music at our wedding party because we are convinced that any style of music we choose, we can’t satisfy all 150 guests – obviously, this will not happen anytime), or another exemple: “I wanted this so long as I’m afraid now of doing wrong right now at the end”. Fear is a very profound sense, it can refers to any thing, any event, any emotion, any past or our present situation and usually we do not even realize it. Fear paralyzes, blocks our actions, set up barriers and holds us in the same place. We “need” these barriers and we build them in order to not act. Therefore, in reality, we use our conscious a lot, we analyze, we calculate the probability of impact of possible actions, we do not keep our deadlines, we seek to stall, we fool ourselves, we move everything in time and space in a manner that even we no longer understand, we are hanged in processes and ultimately we got tired… STOP

How would it be if: we really listen within us, we pay attention to emotions on what we want and we act according to what we feel without beeing no more the slaves of our processes. By this closer look and by moving the focus, we increase our power over the outcome of what we want to achieve. We give it real value, consistency and the effect is: instead of struggling with our fears, we replace them with emotions closely related to what we want. It is a subtle and powerful transformation at the same time. We can rest still and secured: our subconscious is trained well enough to take good decisions without jeopardizing us related to the surrounding world. At the same time eliminates any focus on time and space, will have instant and most effective solution. What if I we listen to it? Well, the first thing would be that the girl in the story would see Paris. How? We don’t know, we don’t go back to the process. But she we will see Paris. Nobody says that the process itself will no longer exist, it doesn’t disappear, but our focus on it. In other words, the result will give us the process and not the other way around. The way (the process) that we get the result through, is again an absolute personal matter. At the informational level there are many methods and “standardized” steps. What makes this new approach is a real shortcut throughout this process. It’s like we focus on the sequence of rational controlled movement of limbs when driving a car in traffic, compared to the direct approach: we drive it as simple as it is.

Complacency, efficiency and inner balance both professionally and personally take on a new form and a new dimension. This new perspective makes the systemic universe to act in order to validate our actions.